Here is the critical first step of self-improvement.
Self-improvement is a fun and exciting challenge. Perhaps the greatest challenge is that in order to improve, which strengthens your confidence and self-image, you have to do something that negatively affects your confidence and self-image. It’s a paradox. Like two physicians. Or two places to park your boat.
Here’s The Deal
To improve you must see your faults.
If you can’t see them, or refuse to acknowledge them, you can’t work on them.
You will be a clumsy dancer for the rest of your life unless you recognize the flaws in your footwork.
You will be a flawed parent or spouse unless you spot your subpar patterns. But you will be a poor golfer unless you understand your over-par habits.
You will lose out on closing the sale over and over until you understand why you are losing.
If you go to your eye doctor and don’t admit that you can’t see very well you won’t get the corrective lenses you need.
And if you don’t see the Martin Shortcomings in your actions and behaviors you won’t take the corrective actions to Pauly Shore up your weaknesses.
Those who make the most progress and improvement see their faults. Which also empowers them with the prescription for improvement.
To improve you must know where you stand today. That means acknowledging your flaws and accepting the recipe for fixing them. It is in the deficiency that we find the key to improvement.
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